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If you want to engage in mind-numbing sex, you’ll need to arouse your girl first. Now, while some women want their man to slam them up against a wall and rip off their underwear, others would prefer light kisses along their necks while their man slowly inches his hand up their thighs. It’s up to you to figure out what yours wants.

That said, today’s tip involves doing what you can to make your woman mad with desire for you. Here, now, are six ways to make her crazy.

1- Look sharp

"’Coz every girl crazy ’bout a sharp-dressed man," as the song goes. And if you’re dressed like a star, chances are that your woman will want to undress you. Now, you don’t have to put on a three-piece suit every day, but looking well put together and carrying yourself with confidence will arouse her vision, which may serve to arouse the rest of her.

Dress well, maintain your hygiene and stay fit, and you’ll be getting laid well into your golden years. On the flip side, this may encourage her to look as hot as possible as well. And coming home together will take on a whole new meaning.

2- Talk dirty

Talking dirty doesn’t have to involve anything derogatory by any means. All you have to do is walk up to your girl, move her hair to the side, bring your lips close enough to brush up against her ear, and whisper something like, "Spread your legs for me. I want to use my fingers to soak you."

There are no limits; you just have to know what would excite her. Some women like hearing forceful words, others prefer more romantic lyrics. It’s up to you to discover what her ears have a penchant for.

Lick, let her watch, use the phone, and blind her…

3- Lick her thighs/back

I’ve said it at least a hundred times; when you seduce a woman by touching parts of her body that usually go unnoticed or ignored, you will arouse her a million times more than if you simply head to her sexualized parts.

That said, spreading her legs open and using your tongue to inch your way up her thighs is a great move… so long as you don’t touch her vagina. That way, she’ll ache, if not beg, you to touch it.

Or, you can opt to lick up her back. Light kisses and the occasional flick of the tongue will drive her crazy, no doubt. Ah, arousal at its best.

4- Use erotic movies

Men are visual, we all know that, but don’t think for a second that women aren’t. The difference comes down to what we want to look at. The next time you’re about to head into the shower, tell your woman you want to show her something and put on an erotic DVD.

Let her watch it while you’re in the washroom and by the time you get out, chances are she’ll be waiting for you with open legs, with her hands between them.

5- Call her up

If your mission is to arouse her before you even see her, call her up during the day and fill her in on what you’ve been thinking about, what you dreamt about or what you plan on doing to her that night. This way, she’ll be excited to see you and you’ve managed to begin the foreplay hours in advance.

6- Use blindfolds

If you ever want to drive a woman to depths of sexual excitement still unknown to man, blindfold her. When you steal away her sense of sight, her other senses become heightened. As well, because she can’t see, she may be bolder in her actions and sounds.

Watch as her nipples become harder than ever and her vagina soaks the sheets.
Rise to Arousal

There are many ways to arouse a woman, but there’s no doubt that arousing her mind will get her body going. Sometimes, something as simple as a deep, slow, wet kiss can make a woman go crazy on you. The thing is, there’s only one way to find out what makes her tick.

Until next time, wake up the beast lurking within your woman.

When a woman goes down on us to show her appreciation for our existence, we should do our best to ensure that the act lasts as long as possible. And although you don’t want to make her mouth numb or give her lockjaw, you do want the experience to last somewhat longer than 2 minutes.

That said, if you tend to get too excited when your woman is licking your penis, here are some ways to make it last longer than usual.

1- Make her change tempo

Instead of bobbing her head up and down like she’s in a marathon, encourage your woman to lick you at different speeds. By changing paces, your penis will experience different sensations, thereby lessening the chances of your letting go too soon. If you’re accustomed to quickness, her slow movements will give you a few moments to regain control, and vice versa.

2- Don’t let her use her hands

Since you’re well aware that masturbation eventually leads to ejaculation, chances are that if she uses her hands to stroke you while she uses her mouth, you’ll ejaculate more quickly than usual. Play a game: tell her that she can’t use her hands to touch your penis, but she can use them to touch any other part of your body.

3- Let her lick the surrounding areas

Every once in a while, get her to use her tongue on the surrounding areas. Introduce her to your inner thighs, your testicles, or even your anus and let her get creative with that great mouth of hers.

Again, a game is the way to go. Tell her that she can lick anywhere on your body, except your penis. But beware: chances are the teasing will have you exploding when she does finally place her mouth over your head.

4- Interrupt fellatio periodically

Whether you penetrate her or simply get her to stop licking you so you can focus on her body for a while, interrupting oral sex will help you keep your ejaculate at bay. To substitute for the oral sex, you can stop her and do your oral thing on her, or kiss her, or rub her body for a while.

5- Get into the 69 position

Because you’ll be trying your damnedest to get her off in the 69 position, you won’t be able to fully concentrate on the sensations she’s giving you. Get into position, let her do her thing and focus all your attention on giving her orgasm.

It’s Always a Game

The best way to ensure that your woman will do as you say is by turning your sex into a game whenever she heads down on you. By betting her that she can’t do something, not only will you be challenging her abilities, you’ll be putting her creative juices to work. Until next time, keep it hard, and keep her going.

When a woman goes down on us to show her appreciation for our existence, we should do our best to ensure that the act lasts as long as possible. And although you don’t want to make her mouth numb or give her lockjaw, you do want the experience to last somewhat longer than 2 minutes.

That said, if you tend to get too excited when your woman is licking your penis, here are some ways to make it last longer than usual.

1- Make her change tempo

Instead of bobbing her head up and down like she’s in a marathon, encourage your woman to lick you at different speeds. By changing paces, your penis will experience different sensations, thereby lessening the chances of your letting go too soon. If you’re accustomed to quickness, her slow movements will give you a few moments to regain control, and vice versa.

2- Don’t let her use her hands

Since you’re well aware that masturbation eventually leads to ejaculation, chances are that if she uses her hands to stroke you while she uses her mouth, you’ll ejaculate more quickly than usual. Play a game: tell her that she can’t use her hands to touch your penis, but she can use them to touch any other part of your body.

3- Let her lick the surrounding areas

Every once in a while, get her to use her tongue on the surrounding areas. Introduce her to your inner thighs, your testicles, or even your anus and let her get creative with that great mouth of hers.

Again, a game is the way to go. Tell her that she can lick anywhere on your body, except your penis. But beware: chances are the teasing will have you exploding when she does finally place her mouth over your head.

4- Interrupt fellatio periodically

Whether you penetrate her or simply get her to stop licking you so you can focus on her body for a while, interrupting oral sex will help you keep your ejaculate at bay. To substitute for the oral sex, you can stop her and do your oral thing on her, or kiss her, or rub her body for a while.

5- Get into the 69 position

Because you’ll be trying your damnedest to get her off in the 69 position, you won’t be able to fully concentrate on the sensations she’s giving you. Get into position, let her do her thing and focus all your attention on giving her orgasm.

It’s Always a Game

The best way to ensure that your woman will do as you say is by turning your sex into a game whenever she heads down on you. By betting her that she can’t do something, not only will you be challenging her abilities, you’ll be putting her creative juices to work. Until next time, keep it hard, and keep her going.

Women are verbal creatures at heart. That’s why they read erotica, get hooked on soaps and love men with foreign accents. These things make them feel the same way we do when we spot a beautiful woman with huge breasts.

Though what excites them is drastically different from what arouses us, there’s good news there. If you can paint a picture with a few choice words, you can turn them on. So it’s in our best interests to learn to say the right things. With that in mind, here are the best things to say to a lady once you separate her from those pesky clothes.

"I want to make you feel good."

Simple, yet effective. A wonderful way to relax her and reassure her that she made the right decision going to bed with you. Drop this one right before or during foreplay for maximum effect.

"I love the sounds you make when you orgasm."

If you know your girl well and know that she does, indeed, orgasm, then this one is for you. And sometimes, even if she does orgasm, a woman feels awkward being vocal during sex. But most of us like a loud woman in bed, because it helps us to know when you’re pleasing her. So you can encourage her to turn up the volume by telling her how much you enjoy it.

"You have such (a) hot [insert body part]."

Pick a favorite body part to mention, but make it one you know she’s proud of. That way, there’s no controversy. Women are notorious for being sensitive to clumsy compliments about their bodies, so tread carefully.

"I love the way you taste. I could stay down here for hours."

This reassures her that you like giving her oral sex and that there are no foul odors emanating from that area. You can say this one during a short break from oral sex or directly afterwards. It probably comes off best when said in a gravely, semi-exhausted voice.

"What are you imagining right now?"

This will encourage her to talk about her sexual desires and participate in setting the mood. The idea here is to let her release any bottled-up fantasies or requests that she would otherwise not mention.

"This feels so good. I love it when you [insert action here]."

Again, this is meant to boost her comfort level (and ego) with a little positive feedback. And, hey, if she knows you like something, perhaps she’ll take note for future reference.

Her skin, how good she is and, of course, you gotta curse…

"You’re so good at [insert action here]."

Let her know when she’s doing something you like. Like us, women take special pride in being good in bed. This phrase is best said with an air of disbelief and an emphasis on "so."

"Your skin is so soft and smooth."

Ladies spend a lot of time rubbing things such as cocoa butter on their bodies after a shower. It’s time we appreciated this strange ritual with a well-placed compliment. Because this is a seductive remark, it’s best to say it before sex. However this could also double for use during pillow talk, taking the place of "Honey, I want to buy you the Benz."

"I want to kiss every inch of you."

Women love foreplay and they love to be pampered. Even if you don’t actually intend on kissing every inch of her body, she’ll know your heart is in the right place. What you’re telling her is that you love and appreciate all of her. It’s very comforting to hear.

"I’ve never felt this good before."

Women love to be singled out as special, different and unique. If she does something to you in bed that has never been done so pleasurably before, tell her as much. Say it so sincerely that she thinks you’re going to name your car after her. Just don’t trip up and say something like "It’s the best ever," which would be overdoing it.

"You’re so *(expletive)* hot!"

Straightforward is often the best way to go. And swearing is one way to tell her that you really mean it. Women often respect the take-charge John Wayne routine.

What happens when you want to ask a friend out on a date, but you’re scared you’ll hear, "No, thanks"? What can you do when potential mates think of you less like a lover and more like a brother?

What can you do when women–all women–seem to think of you as nothing more than a friend?

Don’t be too hard on yourself. Being ‘just friends’ is an all too common problem these days when, more than ever, fewer people actually go out on dates, opting instead simply to ‘hang out,’ pick up a coffee, or take in a movie, all the while acting as if there’s no date happening. The line between dating and just hanging around is blurry–and that’s where your dilemma starts.

Have you ever noticed that friends often don’t arouse strong romantic feelings in some of us? They may seem perfect in all sorts of ways: funny, great to be around, smart, trustworthy, similar, and familiar. But no matter how hard we try, they just don’t arouse strong romantic feeling in us?

This occurs because people linger too long in the getting-to-know- you phase, without getting clear right away about whether their time together are ‘real dates’ or ‘just hanging out.’ Haven’t you ever felt the initial rush of interest for a new friend, but then suppressed those feelings because you thought that she didn’t act interested? But it could be that she felt passion for you, way back when you first started hanging out. You just couldn’t see it. Time passed, and now you’re like a brother to her. She’s known you so long–as nothing more than a friend–and you’re no longer romantically exciting. Get the picture?

So what can you do to stop becoming a brother and start being a lover? Don’t dawdle too long at the friendship stage. If your friend has any romantic feelings for you at all, you’ll have to take advantage of the window of opportunity. Ask early, or be prepared to miss the chance.

Picking the right time is essential: somewhere after the "getting to know you" stage but before she starts telling you about all the men she’s really interested in. When she starts confiding, "I had an awful date last night," be ready to step in right away, and tell her how you feel about her.

Making the switch from friends to lovers isn’t easy. You might not be up to the challenge since it is risky. What if you lose the relationship entirely? That might happen. But if yours is a good friendship, it will survive. And don’t the potential gains outweigh the risks? Just do it. Otherwise, you’ll always be stuck as a brother, wishing the man she dates were you.